When you got married, you thought that it will be like a commonplace fairy tale with “and they lived contented to the end of their days”. Unfortunately, life is not a fairy tale and you can’t change the daily routine with the help of a magic wand.
However, most people tend to hide that they are unhappy in their marriage and endure a former loved one for unknown reasons. You should understand that any relations are not worth your happiness and mental health. In this article, we gathered five common signs that your marriage is dying.
1. You don’t communicate
None of the problems in a marriage can be solved without open and honest communication. If you have come to the conclusion that all your conversations come down to bread and milk, then marriage is in trouble. The lack of personal and intimate communication in marriage is an extremely negative sign. A lack of communication doesn’t mean that you don’t say a word to your spouse. It means that you don’t discuss your working day or share your thoughts.
2. You noticed that sex disappears from your bed
When you understand that you didn’t have sex with your partner for months, you need to think about this situation. Rare sexual relations can’t be considered a reason for divorce especially if both partners are satisfied with it. More dangerous is to get a mismatch of needs. If you need more or less sex than your partner than problems are inevitable. In all other cases, it doesn’t matter what others do or do not.
The main thing is that you and your partner be satisfied. If the couple doesn’t have psychosexual or medical contraindications like dyspareunia, a lack of sex usually signals deeper problems in the relationship.
3. You don’t have common plans for the future
A lack of communication usually leads to the absence of plans for the future. This means that you don’t discuss your future vacations, purchase of a joint real estate, and even your plans for children. If one of the partners still doubts whether he or she wants a child, then it makes sense to discuss this topic. However, if your partner’s answer is clearly negative and your life goal is to have a child, then your marriage has come to an end.
4. You prefer to spend time separately
When you understand that you don’t rush home after work and prefer to stay far away from your partner, it’s a clear sign of marriage problems. Each of the spouses has their own life, interests, and needs. The problem is not in the workload or home routines. This is an emotional distance or even alienation.
It often happens that spouses don’t even realize the problem and spend less time together. If you want to spend some time alone, this is one thing. But, if you prefer to be alone all the time, this is a sign of a relationship problem.
5. You don’t feel the need to work on this marriage
Almost all married couples have some problems in relationships. This doesn’t mean that all of them need to divorce. When both spouses discuss their problems and work on their relations, it is a good sign. But when you or your partner don’t see a single reason to save this marriage, the other spouse will not be able to rule out the problem.
Spouses no longer want to adapt to each other, change, and make efforts to solve problems. Most often, if the unwillingness to correct the situation dominates both spouses is stable and unchanged, this will lead to divorce.