Today is a bit peculiar in that it will not teach you how to flirt in this or that context. But rather how to manage to fall back on its feet after an event always difficult to overcome. The breakup of love.
What you need to keep in mind is the need to rebuild yourself. So as not to fall into depression and lose all self-esteem. And if your journey often begins with resentment. And the impression that everything is falling around you. There are solutions to stay strong and overcome a breakup love or heal a heartache.
This is what I will try to show you through this article, slightly different from the traditional tips and tricks developed on SBK. But after all, even the greatest deceivers must sometimes face failure and can not deny their emotions.
It’s time to take back your life!
Rejecting makes you evolve as an individual
The reasons leading to a break-up are as diverse as they are varied. It is by objectively studying your personal case that you will be able to overcome your pain and overcome the loneliness it engenders.
The wrongs are only very rarely exclusive when your girlfriend decides to let you down. It hurts, we feel betrayed, abandoned … But these feelings, as powerful as they are, form a veil that hides reality. The one you need to be aware of: you are not the only one responsible, just as you are not entirely innocent.
Knowing how to immerse yourself in this reflection, as unpleasant as it is, will allow you to highlight your mistakes, so you do not repeat them in the future, but also your expectations, and your desires in terms of relationships: you will understand little by little why it did not work with the one who is now your ex, and will be more able to identify what you are looking for in a potential girlfriend.
Guilt tends to be felt, but there is no point in convincing yourself that everything is rosy with your girlfriend, or that you want everything to be like before. This represents a limitation in your healing process and blinds you as to the real issue of the situation: you get out of this slump.
Reinvent yourself and arm yourself with determination
Do not vegetate in front of your TV to dry the courses by locking you in your room. To say to oneself that life is unjust and that sadness is too great is to torture oneself for free! There is no anti-heartache pill.
On the other hand, there are solutions to improve things, and in particular your determination to see them change! It is time to be realistic: a break, as small as it is, marks a turning point in a life, in that the daily situation is affected.
What better time to drive change in your life? You are now free to reinvent yourself. And to change your state of mind, nothing like a big broomstick on your personality! Adopt a new look, a new hairstyle, and work on improving your abilities.
Play sports, look for new interests, new places or go out to meet new people.
You have to surf a new dynamic to get back on top psychologically. Prove to yourself that you are better than what your ex-thinks of you.
Breakup in love: a new person with new goals!
Set new personal goals, such as getting your degree brilliantly.
to learn a new language, to pass your driving license or to get a job part-time (depending on your age) to make you some pocket money to invest in this new policy of life!
Do not stay idle, go see your friends, family, go out alone, use your free time to do what you wanted to do but the imperatives of your relationship have prevented you from achieving. Traveling, doing sports competitions, going to shows, football matches …
A sorrow of love is certainly hard to live with but can bring more than you suspect. In a selfish way, you could almost say that it allows you to focus on the most important person in your life: you!
And for those who will answer me that it is the girl who has made you the most important person, I will invite you to meditate on love: what do you really like? The person as such, or the way she made you feel when you were at her side?
Love is a selfish feeling, even if paradoxically it is based on sharing. So there is no shame in wanting to feel better and improve your condition, it is even essential for people to like you.
Breaking up in love if you make an effort to be objective, the result of personal work and questioning that may take a while can prove to be a real driver of positive change in your life. The ability not to sink, to deal with these devastating feelings is there, deep within you.
It’s all about convincing yourself and believing it hard. Do not lower our arms, where we will be there to pull up the suspenders! Courage!
Have you ever had a breakup? How did you do?